Meet a mom who takes care of people’s babies while they make huge parenting decisions.

Im trying desperately to be respectful of the person speaking to me, but my husband keeps texting me.

First he sends me a selfie of him with Rafi*, then it’s an account of who stopped him on his way into the NICU. Then he suggests I take a selfie with Jillian* so he can post them side by side on Facebook and boast that we finally have two babies.

People will ask if theyre twins, Im sure. But theyre not twins. In fact, the babies arent even ours.

James’ dream come true: Two babies! Rafi* in the NICU with Tatte, Jillian* at home with Eema. Photo via Ann Lapin, used with permission.

Rafi* and Jillian* are two in a string of babies who have come into our care temporarily while their biological parents explore their parenting options.

Maybe the birth mom doesnt know if she can parent. Maybe the father isnt in the picture. Maybe the birth mom decided she wasnt able to parent initially, but she began to wonder again after delivery. Or maybe the parents didnt know they were expecting at all.

Whatever the reason, when babies are in my care, their parents are able make important decisions. They can consider adoption options, set up their support systems at home, or get financial assistance if necessary steps they might not have had the opportunity to take before the baby was born.

I take care of these babies because Im whats known as an “interim parent.”

Over the past four years, my family has cared for 22 newborns.

Our children often help parent the babies. Here, Gavri, 12, takes a break from feeding Ariel* to play a quick game of peek-a-boo. Photo by Stacey Natal/Total City Girl, used with permission.

From the time the babies are first discharged from the hospital until the day I place them in their parents arms, these babies are 100% in my care. I rock them to sleep, I feed them at all hours of the day and night, I give them their first baths, and sometimes I capture their first smiles.

I record the important (“March 23, Lukes umbilical cord fell off!”) and the not-so-important (“Jibraans* favorite song: Wagon Wheel. Prefers Darius Rucker to Bob Dylan.”) details of their early days so I can later share them with their parents.

The program Im part of is rare; there are very few like it in the United States.

While the babies are in my care, the birth parents retain their legal rights as parents and are encouraged to visit their babies (if that’s something they would like).

My three kids with our baby before he meets his forever mommy. Photo by Ann Lapin, used with permission.

If they werent in the care of interim moms like me, these tiny babies might wait in the hospital a few extra days while their adoptions are finalized, or they might enter the foster care system.

In New York, biological parents have 30 days after adoption proceedings begin to change their minds about their placement plan.

I became an interim parent when a local mom posted about it on our neighborhood Yahoo group.

“That! THAT I can do!” I thought, as I looked at the computer screen.

I was thrilled. I felt incapable of doing other types of volunteer work, but I felt like I had finally found a community service that I could perform. So, my husband and I applied. And after months of doctor appointments, background checks, interviews, and letters of reference from close friends, we were accepted to the interim caregiving program.

The hope with the interim boarding care program is that biological parents have time to gain clarity about their decisions without pressure.

It also helps adoptive parents feel secure in their status as parents.

The children dont usually get the chance to be present when one of our babies goes home, so this was a special day. We left the adoption agency with an empty stroller but it didnt stay that way for long! Photo by Stacey Natal/ Total City Girl, used with permission.

Roughly 30% of the babies Ive cared for have returned to their biological parents after their stay with me, and the rest have been adopted. Many of the birth mothers Ive known have pursued open adoptions, selecting and meeting their childs forever families.

People often ask me what the experience of interim parenting is like, but there’s no rule: Each case is different.

Babies stay with us, on average, for a few weeks. But one baby stayed with us with five days, another for nine and a half weeks. Whatever the scenario, my family and I are available to care for these babies until they go home … wherever “home” may be.

Photo by Stacey Natal/Total City Girl, used with permission.

This work can be emotionally challenging, too. Some biological parents do not interact with us at all while theyre making big decisions, and some end up being very involved. Some text regularly, requesting photos and updates on the baby while the baby is in our care. Sometimes they schedule weekly visits with the babies. One birth mom became such a constant in our life that my son asked if we could bake her cookies.

I am often blown away by the biological parents gratitude.

Melody* was one of the most beautiful babies Id ever cared for, and I met her parents a couple of times. When they came to take her home, it was as though she was the only one in the room. When they thanked me for taking care of her, my lip started to quiver.

I had also never met Jibraans* dad when I placed him in his arms, either, the day they went home together. “From the bottom of my heart … I cant tell you what youve done for me,” he said. I remember that he towered over me, the size of a linebacker, clenching his jaw to keep the tears from spilling down his cheeks.

When I wave goodbye to the social workers at the agency after introducing each baby to their forever family, I always wonder how long it will be before I get to hold another baby.

I dont get attached to each baby, per se. But I get attached to having a baby, to taking care of a baby. I resent my empty arms, and I feel like Ive lost my purpose. So each time I see the adoption agencys phone number pop up on caller ID, my heart skips a beat.

Photo by Stacey Natal/Total City Girl, used with permission.

When the voice on the other end says, “Hi, Ann … are you ready to take another baby?” my first thought is, “Baby! Im getting a BABY!” That excitement lasts for at least 48 hours.

But even as the adrenaline calms down and the sleepless nights begin to take their toll, the experience of caring for each baby proves to be more than enough motivation for me to keep going.

The emotions that swell when my babies go home with any parent their adoptive parents or their birth parents are not just because of the emptiness I feel in my arms or even because of the happiness I have for my babies and their families.

The emotions I feel are because of the fullness in my heart and the gratitude I have for being a part of each of these babys stories, even if its just for a moment.

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