It Took Meeting The Perfect Guy To Realize Perfect Is The Last Thing I Want

He looked like he just stepped out of a J.Crew catalogue. He was tall and beautiful, with just enough scruff, and had on those leathery rugged handsome bootsthe ones that like theyre meant for hiking up a mountain or chopping firewood, but theyre really meant for nice pants, a cashmere sweater, a clean navy coat. It all was such a lookthe complete look of a perfect guy. And he really was perfect, so proper, so polite. . He really was everything.

Hed buy me coffee and wed walk together on the street, talking about traveling and books and things. Hed offer his arm to me like a proper gentleman, which I took too softly, as I tried to stand up taller, to laugh with poise, to match the aura that lured people into staring at him, as though he was familiar from some series, some fashion ad. He really was guy. And here I was with guy. Id see guys and girls like this on the street and I hated them. Because they were so fucking cute. And I wanted that, the whole picture of it, and now I smelled like pine trees because he smelled like pine trees. I was so wildly into it. I liked standing up taller.

A guy like that had never been mine. He existed solely in my mind, this rosy-colored perfect dream, but I was skeptical he existed in the real. So when we finally met I was so drunk about him. I almost didnt believe it. I was in awe of him. Me? He liked me? Maybe it was time, anyway. To toss aside my worn-out chucks, polish up, get it together. I knew I was a different girl for him and thats what he liked about me, but he also deserved a lady who would complement him, and impress him, too. I really wanted to impress him.

So I tried.

I tried.

And I tried.

But something had to be wrong with me. There just to be. Because what girl meets the perfect on paper guy and feels absolutely nothing? Nothing. Not even a little bit? Our chemistry should have been fiery and fucking insane. It should have been the best everything of my life. And I was bored. Vanilla bored. And I was acting my ass off. I wasnt myself at all. Everything I did felt calculated. Be more of , be less of . I wanted to belong in his world. I wanted him to be my type. But it wasnt fun. It was stale, expected. politeness. I thought I wanted polite. But I also didnt want to think about everything else in the world while it all was happening. I wanted to be consumed, have no choice about it. I wanted to him. And I didnt want him. I didnt belong there at all. Even his bed was perfectso perfect that I was terrified to sleep in it. I didnt want to mess anything up.

Im happy he happened, though. Now I can stop idolizing people I think I have an idea about. I can stop thinking I belong with someone without gaging them as real people first. Its the catalogue complex.

The guy Ill end with wont belong on paper. Because sparks are created on impulse, for no good reason, with no second thought, and you cant plan that stuff out and lead your life with a mind full of theories that ignore the truths of your heart. Fuck the plan. Fuck the formula. Stop thinking that you best belong with some guy who has a list full of qualities that make you act your ass off trying to compete with. I dont want someone perfect. Because Im not perfect. Im sarcastic and inappropriate and I drink like a sailor and I have like one shirt from J.Crew anyway and Im strange and all I want is someone I can be myself around. Life is full of surprises. And in my perfectly imperfect person, being surprised is what I really want.

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